The Book of Grief and Hamburgers

Ross, Stuart

  • Winner of the 2023 Trillium Book Award

    A poignant meditation on mortality from a beloved Canadian poet

    A writer friend once pointed out that whenever Stuart Ross got close to something heavy and “real” in a poem, a hamburger would inevitably appear for comic relief. In this hybrid essay/memoir/poetic meditation, Ross shoves aside the heaping plate of burgers to wrestle with what it means to grieve the people one loves and what it means to go on living in the face of an enormous accumulation of loss. Written during the second wave of the COVID-19 pandemic, shortly after the sudden death of his brother left him the last living member of his family and as a catastrophic diagnosis meant anticipating the death of his closest friend, this meditation on mortality — a kind of literary shiva — is Ross’s most personal book to date. More than a catalogue of losses, The Book of Grief and Hamburgers is a moving act of resistance against self-annihilation and a desperate attempt to embrace all that was good in his relationships with those most dear to him.


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  • Stuart Ross is the author of 20 books of fiction, poetry, and essays. He received the 2019 Harbourfront Festival Prize, the 2017 Canadian Jewish Literary Award for Poetry, and the 2010 ReLit Award for Short Fiction. His work has been translated into Nynorsk, French, Spanish, Estonian, Slovenian and Russian. Stuart lives in Cobourg, Ontario.

  • Published: April 2022

    ISBN: 9781770416567

    Dimensions: 5 x 8 in.

    Pages: 152


The Book of Grief and Hamburgers is an ode and celebration of friendships, family, and the footprints that they affectionately leave.” — Excalibur

“I really, really loved this book. Sometimes I loved it while I was laughing, and sometimes I loved it while I was also crying. I think you would love The Book of Grief and Hamburgers while you laugh and also cry, too.” — Wolsak and Wynn blog

“It’s the kind of book you can pick up and revisit — and I already have — rereading a passage here and there. It’s moving, elegiac, and deeply sad, but it’s also a comfort.” — Bloggy Come Lately

The Book of Grief and Hamburgers is the best thing since brioche buns … I hope Stuart Ross’s Book of Grief and Hamburgers has touched as many readers as deeply as it did me, and if you haven’t read it yet, I very much hope you get the chance to, too.” — periodicities : a journal of poetry and poetics

“Ross is a generous writer; he wants this ease for others, even if his own nature has a tendency toward melancholy. He would rather avoid the whimpers: If you want to cry, then cry. If you want to rage, climb to the top of the highest building and howl at the moon. When it comes to his own pain, he calls his deflections cowardice. But a more forgiving term would be ‘human.’ A burger might be a means of avoidance, but it is also a reminder, a treat, a touch of levity in what can be a cruel and trying existence. Grab a chair. Order up.” — Literary Review of Canada

“A series of bereavements (including that of a close friend and his brother) prompts the Canadian poet to muse on mortality with lyricism and irreverence in this conversational, and often darkly humorous, book-length essay, about a man who has a hard time engaging with grief.” — Zoomer Magazine

“The humour and courageous honesty of The Book of Grief and Hamburgers offers relief to any of us who have struggled with despair during the pandemic and the exponential growth of grief as we age.” — Northumberland Festival of the Arts